Consequentiality

[mattp]

What seemingly small events have since turned out to have a profound and/or long-lasting effect on your life?

The one which comes to my mind is helping a mate clean out his loft on new years day 1996. I found one of his books on bellringing and thought it looked interesting. I've been involved ever since and now help to run weekly learner sessions.

I've thought of another one of similar magnitude. In 1998, I think, I went to a workshop at Manchester Uni run by softfruit. About a year or so later I was round a mate's house and one of his neighbours was there, and she recognised me from the workshop. She handed me contact details of a Manchester bi group and from there I found myself involved in the UK bi community and with many of the friends I now hang around with.

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[syllopsium.livejournal.com]

Eating a blue cheese pizza

[reindeerflotila.livejournal.com]

A random offhand comment in a net chatroom about Venger Vs Mummrah the ever-living.

I righteously cocked up a job interview...

[misterfallen.livejournal.com]

...and knew that I had, so invited some goth girl I vaguely knew lived not too far away out for some drinks to make me feel better.

That was 3 years ago, and I'm still wondering why sweetcyanide hasn't got bored of me yet.

[tartful-dodger.livejournal.com]

Getting chucked out of a gay pub in Bury for not being gay enough.

As a result I went to Biphoria, met peoples, went to bicon, met more peoples (Including you, Phoebe and Bethan) worked through my issues and realised that even though I wasn't ashamed of being bisexual I just wasn't bi after all, got divorced.... now probably moving down to London.

That's just huuuuge.

[diffrentcolours]

Probably replying to a rant in the middle of a flamewar on UPG back in my first year of Uni. dua had shouted at both sides to pack it in, and I'd replied with "sounds like somebody needs a hug", and got a very nice e-mail in response. Ultimately, this led to me moving down to Oxford after graduating, and five years of my life in which I met a whole load of new people, grew as a person, and ended up back where I belong happer and more sorted.

[kelemvor.livejournal.com]

Going to the Fitzroy Tavern the day I graduated university. So much of my life in the past six years has revolved around the people I met there, directly and indirectly.

[kibe.livejournal.com]

My dad introducing me to cix back in 1994. I think if he hadn't have shown me then, he would have got bored and cancelled his subscription pretty quickly. It gave me my love of the internet and a massive bunch of friends and experiences.

Chris pointing out UA to me on the University newsgroups was a biggie as well. Not that I'm terribly active on UA these days, but I did feel part of it back when I first got to uni, and everyone was so supportive when I was going through some tough times.

Meeting my friend Steve on the bus on the way into Uni in the first week.

Me being drunk xmas eve 1999, leading me to make what could have been a catastrophic step of snogging my best friend Adam ;)

I suppose these events aren't really that small, but it all could have gone a lot differently if these things hadn't happened.

[friend-of-tofu.livejournal.com]

Moving to London with my ex-husband after graduation despite really not wanting to.

Working at Forbidden Planet, where I met my best friend.

IMing a person I knew was the sort-of-ex of someone I was seeing at the time in an attempt to sort out apparant tensions, having a 4 hour conversation with her and ending up with a new, wonderful friend in hyacinthgirl19.

Sending an email to an American girl on OK Cupid on the recommendation of my ex-boyfriend, who turned out to be moving to London and sharing a house with a friend of hers - alextiefling!

[taimatsu]

The one that comes to mind right now is the night when cryx decided to drag me out to see friends of hers, which happened to occur at the house of diffrentcolours, which friendship has, a good four years later, thoroughly blossomed in some very pleasant ways. :)

[haggis.livejournal.com]

Probably, feeling sorry for the guy from an English university who was being ignored at a 'find out about universities' event in a small Scottish town. (The overwhelming majority of people from my school who went to uni, went to a Scottish university). I chatted to him mainly because he was being ignored by everyone else. That turned out to be UMIST, where I eventually ended up. My life has been changed in almost every detail by the decision to come to Manchester (and not say, Edinburgh, which was my second choice).

In more recent events, deciding to send a drunken text message to the person I had a crush on at Pride has had a much bigger effect than I expected ;)

[loopy-lorna.livejournal.com]

Giving my number to a boy in a lecture (starting a 6 year relationship)....being told about Livejournal by a mate who was totally unattached to the Bi community/any of my current friends on here! Being on LJ has resulted in many a friendship- especially my one with Emj!! :-)

[mhw.livejournal.com]

Is it too much of a cop-out to say that my life seems to have been directed pretty much totally by those seemingly small events?

I remember the offer of a coffee one night in 1978... that was a big big pivot point, as it turned out, though at the time it seemed utterly inconsequential.

[msbhayvin.livejournal.com]

I remember you did a meme a while ago and you wanted to learn to knit. If you send me your address to G_E_M_Z_1@yahoo.co.uk I'll send you really easy and understandable instructions. Otherwise I can teach you the next time you are in manc! YOu could stay here!!!!!!!

xXx

[mattp.livejournal.com]

I already know how to knit. You might've been remembering me wanting to knit an item of clothing or to have a knitting party in a nightclub - which are items in my 101 in 1001 list.

I'm not particularly quick, but I can do most basic patterns. I can decrease OK, it's things like cords, buttonholes and increasing that I can't do yet. I'm a long way off that though - I want to improve my speed before working on complex techniques. It would be fab to see you though - it's been an ange since we last met up. It'll probably be after the new year as I'm super-manic with the house move at the mo.